Why I’m Here

Hi, I’m Jessica. I’m a 30-year-old mom of two, and like many of you, I’m learning to love myself. It’s a journey that’s taken time, more time than I’d like to admit, but it’s one that I’m finally walking with purpose.

For as long as I can remember, I’ve felt like I was living in the background of my own life. I don’t mean this in the traditional sense of being shy or introverted (though there was definitely some of that, too) but more in the sense of feeling emotionally invisible. I was there, physically, but I often felt unseen, unheard, and like I was living a version of myself that didn’t quite fit.

Growing up, I carried a lot of emotional weight that I didn’t know how to unpack. In a way, my parents were never really ready to be parents. They were emotionally unavailable and our house was full of extreme highs and lows. I learned to keep quiet, to blend in, and to survive each day without drawing attention to myself. But the more I silenced myself, the more I lost touch with who I truly was. It was like living underwater, struggling to catch my breath, unable to break the surface and truly be.

As I got older, I thought I would eventually figure it out. But the truth is, I spent a lot of years trying to numb the discomfort and distract myself from the deeper questions that gnawed at me. Whether through relationships, unhealthy coping mechanisms, or just staying busy, I never allowed myself to fully face the emotional and spiritual truths that had been hiding beneath the surface.

It wasn’t until my mid-twenties, after becoming a mom, that I started to realize something had to change. I had to stop pretending everything was fine when it wasn’t. I had to stop trying to fit into the expectations that were placed on me, whether from society, family, or even my own ideas of what I “should” be. I had to start asking myself: What do I really want? Who am I really?

The more I questioned, the more I realized I was holding onto things: beliefs, habits, and fears that no longer served me. I was afraid of change, but I was even more afraid of staying stuck. So I began a slow, messy, and often painful process of self-discovery. I questioned my past, my relationships, my spirituality, and the very way I saw myself.

And through that process, I started to uncover the parts of me that had been buried in the name of survival. I began to see that healing isn’t linear—it’s a winding road, full of detours, dead-ends, and breakthroughs. It’s a constant unraveling, a peeling back of layers that no longer fit, and a way to create space for the truest version of myself to emerge.

I’m still learning. I’m still growing. And I’m still healing. But one thing I’ve learned for sure is that I don’t have to do it alone. That’s why I’ve started this blog: to create a space where we can all come together, share our journeys, and explore the deeper questions that are often left unasked.

In this space, we’ll talk about healing, spirituality, mindfulness, trauma, and becoming the best versions of ourselves. We’ll challenge the beliefs we’ve held onto for too long and explore the things that really matter to us. We’ll share our struggles and triumphs, our questions and insights, and build a community where no one feels invisible.

So, welcome to Unraveling the Self. Whether you’ve just stumbled in or have been searching for a space like this for a while, I’m so glad you’re here. I want this to be a place where we can all learn, heal, and grow—together.

Let’s ask the hard questions. Let’s uncover the truths we’ve hidden from ourselves. Let’s begin to unravel the layers and find out who we truly are.

With love and light,
Jessica

Your Turn

I’d love to hear your story. What are you unraveling in your life right now? What questions are you asking about yourself and the world around you? Leave a comment below or send me a message—I’m here to listen, and I’m excited to create this journey with you.