1. When something upsetting happens, what’s your go-to reaction?

A. I bed rot, scroll TikTok, or just check out completely.
B. I start picking myself apart or wondering what I did wrong.
C. I jump into fix-it mode and try to smooth things over ASAP.
D. I pause, feel the feelings, and try to understand what’s going on.

2. How do you usually talk to yourself when you’re struggling?

A. I try to block it out or distract myself.
B. I get really critical—“Why can’t you handle this?”
C. I want to be kind, but it feels fake or awkward.
D. I’ve been practicing self-compassion, even if it’s still hard.

3. Where are you at with self-awareness or spirituality?

A. I don’t really think about that stuff much.
B. I’ve tried journaling or meditating, but I don’t stick with it.
C. I watch healing videos or read posts, but I haven’t done much on my own.
D. I have a routine or practice I try to return to when I can.

4. What tends to make you feel stuck?

A. I don’t know what I’m feeling or where to even begin.
B. My emotions feel like too much all at once.
C. I’m scared to lose control or face what might come up.
D. I know what I need, but actually doing it feels impossible.

5. Which thought hits the closest?

A. “I just want to feel normal again.”
B. “Why am I like this?”
C. “I want to be seen and accepted for who I really am.”
D. “I’m ready to understand myself on a deeper level.”

6. How do you usually handle vulnerability?

A. I avoid it like the plague.
B. I try, but it makes me super uncomfortable.
C. I want it so badly, but I’m afraid of being judged or rejected.
D. I’m slowly learning to lean into it with people I trust.

7. What feels doable to you right now?

A. A few deep breaths or a silly mindfulness app.
B. A guided journal prompt with some structure.
C. Reading or listening to someone else’s healing story.
D. A quiet moment with my journal or a meditative walk.

Tally up your answers and let’s see where you’re at.

🌱 Mostly A’s – Gentle Foundations

You might be feeling a bit disconnected or unsure where to even start, and that’s totally okay. Right now, your nervous system likely needs softness, not pressure. You’re not lazy or broken. You’re just overwhelmed, and numbing out might be the only thing that’s felt safe so far.

Try this next:

🪞 Mostly B’s – Inner Awareness

You might have a loud inner critic and a habit of carrying blame or shame that was never yours to begin with. You’re craving clarity and self-understanding, but it’s hard to get there when your first instinct is to turn against yourself.

Try this next:

  • Journal prompt: “What’s one thing I’d never say to a friend, but say to myself all the time?”
  • Try 5 minutes a day with a guided self-compassion meditation (there are options on YouTube, I’d try to find one that fits your taste).
  • Book: Why Buddhism Is True by Robert Wright – practical, beginner-friendly insight into why our minds act this way. This book is not religious.
  • Read: “Doubt is the First Step to Healing”
  • Emotion to notice: shame. It often hides behind “I’m just being realistic.”

💛 Mostly C’s – Permission to Feel

You deeply want to be seen and accepted for who you really are, but that can feel terrifying when you’ve been shut down, judged, or rejected in the past. You’re emotionally aware, but maybe not sure how to express that safely.

Try this next:

  • Journal prompt: “What did I need to hear as a kid that no one said?”
  • Practice inner child work: Write a letter to your younger self. Start with “Hi, I see you.”
  • Book: Journey of Souls by Michael Newton (Amazon) – for big-picture healing and validation.
  • Read: “Asking for What You Want” (especially if vulnerability feels hard).
  • Emotion to notice: longing. It’s not weakness, it’s the root of authenticity.

🌌 Mostly D’s – Deepening the Practice

You’ve already begun your healing journey and now feel ready to go deeper. You may have explored tools like mindfulness, inner work, or spiritual growth, but want to find more meaningful or embodied ways to keep going.

Try this next:

  • Advanced journaling: “What parts of me still don’t feel safe to show up?”
  • Explore somatic practices like body scans, intuitive movement, or breathwork (start simple, try a YouTube video from The Mindful Movement).
  • Book: The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk (intense but foundational).
  • Blog post to read: The Voice in Your Head Isn’t Always You
  • Emotion to notice: resistance. It usually shows up right before real change.

Wherever you are, it’s exactly where you’re meant to be.

Your results aren’t a label, they’re a starting point. Healing isn’t linear, and there’s no “final form” to unlock. Some days you’re ready to journal through your deepest wounds; other days you’re just trying not to throw your phone across the room. Both count.

If something resonated, explore it a little. Check out the resources linked, read one of the blog posts, or just sit with the emotions that came up. You’re already doing the work by being here.

Feel free to share your result in the comments or send it to someone who’s on their own messy, magical path too. And if you don’t feel like you have anyone to reach out to (or you’re just not ready to), my messages are always open. You can reach out here or find me on socials. I’d love to hear from you.

With love & light,
Jessica ♡